Let go of prejudices and learn to listen 放下成见，学会聆听

Don't oppose for the sake of opposing 别为了反对而反对

"For those questions that you are not sure about, don't rush to object or comment, unless you have thought of a better way or opinion, and have analyzed various current situations accurately."-Xu Zhu.

“对那些你还不确定的问题，先别急着反对或发言，除非你已经想到了更好的办法或意见，也非常精确分析过各种现状了。”——徐竹。

During this high technology era, online social media provide us with a platform of freedom to speak. We can express our own views on events/news, oppose the opinions expressed by others, criticize others' creative works, dress, appearance, etc. without others seeing it and know who you are.

随着科技的不断更新进步，许多网络社交平台为人们提供了自由发言的平台。我们能够在别人看不见的情况下，发表自己对事件的看法、反对别人发表的意见、批评别人的创意作品，穿着，外貌等等。

In order to follow the trend, many people indiscriminately stand on the opposite side and begin to comment/criticise, but have you ever wondered what you really think? Do you just want to follow the trend or just because it makes you feel like you are better than everyone?

很多人为了跟风，不分青红皂白就站在了“酸民”的反方立场，开始酸言酸语，但你可曾想过自己真正是怎么想的吗？究竟自己是为了跟风，还是逞一时之快，觉得自己比较优秀呢？

There is no perfect individual in this world, you and I are the same. Some people join the world of "Keyboard Man" and follow the trend.

这个世界上没有完美的人，你我都一样。一些人加入“键盘侠”行列，随波逐流。

When you are trying to criticise others, take a look at yourself and try to think from the perspective of the victim. If you are him, do you want to be the target of the "Keyboard Man"?

在你试图批评他人之际，看一看自己，试试站在受害者的立场去思考，如果你是他，你希望自己被当成“键盘侠”的目标吗？

"Man on Earth, Good at Birth," The world is beautiful, but because people begin to be "toxic" and then pollute the people and the environment.

“人之初，性本善”，世界本是美好，但因为人们开始受到“污染”继而污染了身边的人和环境。

Undeniably, I also criticized the appearance and opinions of others, but I will not make things so bad. Before I speak, I will think calmly and think about the consequences if I say what I want to say, comment on what I want to comment.

无可否认，我也是会批评别人的外表和看法，但我会在发言前冷静思考，想想若我把自己想说的那一番话说出来，会导致什么后果？

When we were young, our objections to everything might because we are innocent. But with the life experiences and lessons, you and I have grown up, and this mentality of pure opposition and opposition must be corrected.

小时候，你我对每件事情的反对，可称之为“当年的年少无知”。但随着岁月流失，你我成长了，这样纯粹反对而反对的心态，必须改正。

Everyone is accustomed to falling into a fixed pattern when facing and thinking about everything, thinking that other people's things are not good or right. At this point, all you can do is to keep asking: "Why do you do that?", but not to deny and oppose others.

人人都习惯在面对及思考每件事情的时候，落入固定模式，认为别人的都不好，不对。此时，你可以做的就是不断地提问：”为什么要那样做？”，但不是否定和反对他人。

I just had a sharing session with my friend. She said her leader will never agree with her ideas. Then I asked her to share her experiences with me. She said she is the content creator for the company events. She is responsible to keep the company's social media updated. Thus, she had an idea to update social media through stories/feeds. However, when she suggested this to her leader, the leader rejected her by just saying, it doesn't look professional by doing a live streaming session on certain events that happening now or a simple story/feed to let the social media users watch/read. 
我刚和一个朋友吃饭，她与我分享了她在工作上的问题。她说，她的副经理每次都拒绝她所提出的意见和看法。她详诉：“我的工作包括了更新公司的社交媒体动态，比如说，公司今天有活动，我就负责拍照，撰写和更新至社交媒体。于是，我便向副经理提出我的想法。我觉得我们可以直播一下特别的活动或者是更新一下快拍。”但是，她的副经理没听完他的提议，便马上反对了，并说：“我觉得这不专业。”

From the above sharing, you can see that this is how "toxic" individual is. They will never agree with others' opinions or sharings or ideas. They only think that they are the most professional one.

从上述的分享，你可以看到“污染”人群的思想是怎样的。他们永远都不会认同你的意见、看法、提议。他们只会觉得自己永远是最好，最专业的。

Therefore, learn to listen, think, and let yourself face it with an open attitude when encountering a different point of view. Listen and understand first, think about it, and then raise your "comment" in the right way.

因此，在遇到与自己观点不同的时候，学会聆听，思考，让自己以开放的态度去面对。先聆听了解，思索，再以正确的方式开启你的“评论”。

Remember, when you want to oppose an event, make sure that you have a better plan or opinion, then your objection is meaningful. This can also protect yourself from being trapped in a radical state and being used by others.

记住，当你想要反对某事件之际，确认自己已经有更好的方案或意见，那么你的反对才显得有意义。这样也能够保护自己。避免陷入激进状态，成为被利用的角色。

备注：此文章纯属个人意见观点及读后感/学习。Remarks: This article is purely personal opinions and thoughts/learning.
来自《令人挫折的不是跌倒，而是从来不敢向前奔跑》——徐竹

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